December 13, 2010

This past weekend

Well, some of you saw some statuses on Facebook last night or the night before and maybe even on Friday that may have been a little bit "questionable" or concerning. So I thought some of you deserved an explanation as to what the statuses were about.

The main one I would like to discuss is the one that said, "It's a shame that one person can ruin everything for an entire family"... So, here is the reason behind that status.

If you read back a few posts, I think there is one that has to do with Anna's dad getting out of jail and me giving him the benefit of the doubt and letting him and Anna meet and try to build a relationship... Well, long story short (and that's how I plan to keep it for now) it was a mistake and Anna's "sperm donor" (as far as I'm concerned right now) will not be seeing her until there is a court order that says that I have to allow him to see her. I told him while he was still in jail that once he got out, he would have ONE CHANCE to prove to me that he is changed and if he did one illegal thing he was losing Anna. Well, he did something illegal and I'm leaving it at that. No, he is not back in jail, but I'm not taking that chance with my daughter. She hasn't had enough time to attach to him and she hasn't asked about him in over a week and I am just going to leave it that way. If she asks, I'm not really sure what I will tell her. I will have to figure that out here soon though.

So, that's the short version with minimal details, but that's about how it is. There will be no further contact with Brian until there is a court order saying that they have to have contact whether it be visitation or phone calls.

End. Of. Story. :)

By the way, I'm happily ticked off about this whole situation. I'm happy that I (for now at least) don't have to see him, but upset because this may affect his entire family who has been there for the kids and I since day one unlike her father. Brian's Aunt Katie, Uncle Mike, his sister Tammy, and his grandfather have all been a part of my kids' lives and it really upsets me that because of Brian, right now we can't visit the rest of Anna's family who loves her and wants to be in her life.

So, that's the update that everyone was waiting for. I will also be posting another update in the morning about how Anna's IEP meeting went today, but I would like to give everyone a chance to see this update first :)

Good night!